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Yesterday a friend told me that I should give a talk or class about books and blogging. She even listed some places where she thought I should speak. My first instinct was to say, “Oh, well, I’m no expert.” Luckily I caught myself. Instead I told her thanks and it does sound like a great idea.
On the drive home, the recalled the conversation. I enjoy giving compliments and I truly believe in the ones I give to others. Why is it so easy to dismiss compliments? I know I’m not the only one. It’s not hard to say, “Thanks.”
Instead many of us will say, “Oh no, not me.” or “Thanks, but. . .”
I think part of it is that as girls, we’re raised to be quiet and to please people without drawing attention to ourselves. I know it’s a gross generalization, but stay with me here. Compliments are attention, even if they are positive. Growing up in my family, girls weren’t really praised for their intelligence, but more for their looks. Boys, however, are praised for their intelligence, their physical strength, and their stubbornness. According to Danielle LaPorte, what others compliment you on the most is your genius. That’s your gift, your skill. Who doesn’t want to find their genius?
No more. I’m a grown woman with a young daughter. I don’t want her to feel embarrassed about receiving compliments. Instead, I will embrace compliments I receive. I’m reminded by my word of the year, Nourish. Receiving and accepting compliments definitely nourish your heart.
I’m going to learn to say, “Thank you.” to compliments. No buts. No caveats. I’m just going to accept them.
Will you join me?