Who Will My Kids Date?

One of the hardest part of my life so far was the years after I told my parents I was dating my husband. To say they were displeased that my boyfriend was black is a huge understatement. They barely made it to our wedding, but only after being pressured into by the rest of my extended family. Almost 11 years and 2 kids later, they vehemently defend my husband and children when people aren’t happy with the browner parts of my family.

My husband and I joke often that our kids will have it so easy. They can date whatever race they want. It doesn’t matter what culture or religion their partner will be. Their partner’s gender won’t matter either. Until I read The Execution of Noa P Singleton by Elizabeth Silver, I had never considered age. In this month’s From Left to Write book club selection, the murder victim Sarah is dating Noa’s father.

What would I do if my kids dated someone 10 or 20 years their senior? Honestly, I don’t know. I’d like to think that I would be happy for them, as long as their partner is a good person and they are compatible. I haven’t even brought this up to my  husband yet. He’s not ready to think that our almost tween daughter will be dating in a few years. Yikes!

Have you ever dated someone much older than you? How did your family react?


This post was inspired by the novel The Execution of Noa P. Singleton by Elizabeth L. Silver. Mere months before Noa’s execution, her victim’s mother changed her mind Noa’s sentence and vows to help stay the execution. Join From Left to Write on July 30 as we discuss The Execution of Noa P. Singleton. As a member, I received a copy of the book for review purposes. This post contains affiliate links.

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